I had a great talk with a friend the other night about our businesses, and the goals we want to accomplish in our lives both personally, and professionally. And one of the things that really stood out in our talk was the topic of our past. Both of us have what some might call “a colorful past” and have been through some things that most people have not.
Both of us have a past with some sort of trouble etched into the details of our story, and both of us have allowed that past, to some extent, to shape our very personalities that define us now.
The irony of it all, is that neither of us want our past to be the defining factors of who we are now. And in our talk with one another, we came to the conclusion that maybe both of us have not completely shed that “negative spirit” of our personality that was shaped by our past.
In other words, we’re still both a little “street,” and a little rough around the edges when it comes to our personalities. We both catch ourselves thinking or saying things out loud that we know we shouldn’t be. I know that we’re not the only people dealing with this issue though. I believe it’s just a natural part of life for everyone, and that truly overcoming a negative spirit is a daily battle in this thing we call life.
I believe in being a product of your decisions, and not a product of your environment. And in order to make that belief a reality, it will require daily action to make it come true.
All people have their own unique story unlike anyone else. And not to sound cliche, but we are all unique and special in our own ways, and it’s up to us to make sure that we always put our best foot forward, no matter the situation we are going through.
For me personally, a very useful tool in fighting against a negative spirit, is physical fitness. Or more specifically, punching and kicking a heavy bag in some sort of boxing or kickboxing workout. Letting out my aggression through physical impact on the bag allows me to clear my head, and calm the raging storm of thoughts that occurs when I’m frustrated. But for the record, I haven’t worked out in a while. I’m just being honest.
And not only does punching or kicking a bag help to solve my frustrations, but it allows me to get clarity and better focus on the events and goals and objectives that I need to complete. The benefits of a great fitness program are endless, but I won’t get into those details because that’s not what this is about. Fitness is something I need to get back into though because it’s part of the required daily action in life.
What I’m saying here is that if you’re fighting against a negative spirit in your life because of your past, or because of something else, that it’s important for you to be brutally honest with yourself about why that is present in your life. You can’t afford to lie to yourself or sugar coat the details about your own failures.
If you’re the type of person who breaks down or gives up just because you get your feelings hurt, then I got news for you; you will NEVER get any better in life, in business, or in anything else, ever.
I love brutal honesty. I love people that are brutally honest to me. I love when someone can tell me the truth to my face, even if they think it might hurt my feelings. And I absolutely believe in being brutally honest to myself at all times.
My comment above, about not working out in a while, is part of that brutal honesty about my own failures. I have not worked out in a long time, and because of that failure on my part, my mental and emotional stresses are beginning to manifest themselves physically in the form of aches and pains in my muscles.
And since I’ve not worked out, my mind has been clouded, and groggy, and lacking clarity and focus as compared to the days when I did workout. I feel it, not just physically, but mentally and emotionally as well.
The negative spirit of my past comes against me in the form of bad thoughts, bad dreams, stress, anger, frustration, and it all begins to pile up over time. This is my fault, and this is my failure. And I must do something to fix it.
If I can be brutally honest to myself, and to anyone who reads this blog post, then YOU can be brutally honest with your own self as well.
I know for a fact that when I work out, my body and mind function at an incredibly better rate than when I’m lazy and immobile.
If you can challenge yourself to take daily action to improve your life one step at a time, then I promise that you will begin to destroy that negative spirit that is affecting your life, and you will begin to see yourself living to your truest and highest potential.