We all try to avoid failure, but sooner or later, it catches up to us. And when it does, it’s not always easy to deal with. If you do a quick Google search for the definition, you get “lack of success” or “an unsuccessful person, enterprise, or thing.” I’m surprised it’s not simply defined as “mistake” because that’s what it means to me most of the time.
Failure is often times, simply a mistake. And speaking of mistakes, or failures, I had a big one the other day. In my haste to clean up and organize files I deleted some very important ones in the process, and I have been unable to restore them at all. Epic Fail.
The end result of my failure led to serious frustrations and the immense deployment of “F-Bombs” on an almost nuclear level as I rocked back in forth in my chair contemplating my next move.
How does this happen? Where did I go wrong? Why me? All types of questions came to mind and I thought of every excuse I possibly could to make myself “feel better” about it. I tried telling myself that “it’s going to be OK because it’s not really deleted; it’s just misplaced.” But the more I thought about it, the more I realized I needed to just face it head on.
Someone in my Facebook Group reminded me that it’s simply part of the process and that I should just embrace it, and get back to work. Those words resonated with me a lot. I took a deep breath and calmed myself down a bit, and re-approached the issue with a refreshed mindset…and a fifth cup of coffee of course, lol. Sometimes we just need simple reminders like that.
Failure is part of the process of success. It is bound to happen sooner or later, but the most important aspect of it, is how you choose to react. Getting angry doesn’t help. Feeling sorry doesn’t make it any better either. Dropping some “F-Bombs” may alleviate some emotional distress, but it still doesn’t solve the problem or provide a worthy solution. So what’s the right thing to do?
Get back to work. Go back to the drawing board. Start over if need be. Just don’t sulk in your failures. The greatest champions the world has ever known have faced incredible failures in the pursuit of success. The greatest victories come after the toughest of battles. And winners can never truly appreciate victory until they know the painful sting of loss.
It’s OK to fail sometimes. It’s OK to make mistakes sometimes. It’s going to happen. Just make sure you learn from them and do everything in your power to not make the same mistakes again.
I’ve jumped back in to recreating the things I’ve deleted in my own screw-up. And now I feel so much better about it already, because instead of sitting helpless on the sidelines, I’ve become my own solution to the problem.
In this situation, I can’t help but think of that now infamous scene between Rocky and his son where he says “Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place, and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth, but you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that!”
I’ve faced some unexpected hits in the past, and I’ve overcome them. This one shouldn’t be handled any differently. It’s just part of the process on the mission for success.
If you’re on a mission for success, then I invite you to come join my brand new Facebook Group called “Skills for Life and Business.” It’s a welcoming learning environment for people who are interested in learning and/or sharing their skills for Life and Business so we can all help each other move forward together. I’d love to see you there.